I joined in to review the book Sunshine After The Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother. This is a wonderful collection of stories to help a grieving mother (or father) after the loss of a child. This book is not only for parents, but for the family and friends who stand alongside.
I have not experienced the loss of a child firsthand, but I recall my mother having two miscarriages. Many of my friends have been going through pregnancy and birth the past couple of years, and I've been learning more and more about the joys and the struggles of carrying and conceiving a child. Just the thought of carrying a baby inside and going through the delivery amazes me.
The Chapters are filled with survival tips, quotes and personal stories of loss. Here are some things that I learned:
- Sometimes the phrase "I'm sorry for your loss" is not enough. Sometimes it's the only thing you can say. Instead of trying to console with words, be the listener.
- Grieving takes a long time. You will always remember.
- No matter if the child was born and died, stillborn, or miscarried, a child is a child. A part of yourself dies when a child that grew inside of you passes away.
- Numbness is good, but only for a time. There needs to be a time to cry and vent about your feelings, or they will explode out of you all at once.
The tips in this book are great for anyone that has loved a lost one, but are especially needed for the mothers. Sunshine After the Storm was a great learning experience for me.
You can read more about the book and other blog tour stops at http://sunshineafterstorm.us/.
The book is available on Kindle and Paperback at Amazon.com.